I am woman

“I am woman, hear me roar
In numbers too big to ignore
And I know too much to go back an’ pretend
‘Cause I’ve heard it all before
And I’ve been down there on the floor
No one’s ever gonna keep me down again”

 

To those who don’t know the song I am referring to watch this link :
I am woman- Helen Reddy
And to those who do, I am sure are nodding in agreement with whats coming up in this blog post.

Disclaimer: This blogpost is adressed mainly to the women out there, so men do read ,  see if you can get into a woman’s shoe.

Yesterday I met an old friend from college after 3 years. Now to some of you ladies, 3 years might not seem like a long time, but to me it felt like we had skipped decades. As we sat down with our coffee and dived right into our lives telling each other about our work and personal life, we could not help but point out to each other, how much we have changed! I do realize every person changes with time and experience. But that’s not the change we were talking about.

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From  tom-boys to pretty women, from reserved to extroverts was typically the topic of discussion. Like every coffee with a gal pal, our talks circled around work (predominantly) , friends , family and some gossip. On my way back home as I lowered the cab windows to feel the fresh post drizzle air, I saw a bunch of young teenage girls on their bikes headed somewhere. I couldn’t help but wonder, what had changed in our lives, and why and what did that mean?….
Now that we are not just referred to as girls anymore. I am a woman (Also, so I am told repeatedly by this society). I wonder what that really means?
Does this mean I have just been promoted from being a girl to a woman?
Can I do whatever I want, wear whatever I want and go wherever I want?  Well, NO.
So this doesn’t seem like a promotion.
Does this mean that I am supposed to be grown up (or at least act , like most grown ups do ) and responsible? Does this mean I am supposed to become independent ?
Does this mean I am supposed to get married ?
I need answers to a lot of these questions , and I am hoping in due time , I’ll find them. What I do know for certain is, not much seems to have changed. I still love eating pizzas , dancing in the rain and crashing my girlfriends’ places for late night coffee and chat sessions . So to all girls on the verge of womanhood out there, relax.

What does being a woman mean?

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If you google this, just like I do before writing any blog, you’ll find truckloads of articles from all perspectives trying to answer this question. From biological to psychological , hormonal to stereotypical , they have each given it a shot.
So before I go any further with my thoughts on womanhood this is what a few experts in their fields say:

Being a woman in 2017 , means being a warrior  for change.
~Jess Philips MP , Author of Everywoman 

My observation…is that the biological clock and the career clock are in total conflict with each other. Total, complete conflict.
~ Indra Nooyi , CEO Pepsi Co

I’m just trying like everybody else. I like to take every conflict, every experience and learn from it. Life is never dull.
~Oprah Winfrey

There is nothing more beautiful than the proud look of an empowered woman who’s helping put food on the table for her children, or the caring smile of a teacher who inspires her students because she loves her job, or the confidence of a retiree who has found ways to continue contributing to her community
~Queen Rania

We are all one tribe, made better by the diversity of traits and choices among us.
~Jessica Herrin , Founder Stella & Dot.
Clearly all of us place importance on different aspects of being a woman . Every woman I have spoken to about this question has raised even more questions within myself and the process.

Womanhood for me is to find a motivated purpose in life. 

And no, I don’t mean hop onto the Femi-Nazi band wagon. I have lived a very comfortable life so far , and so have many others reading this blog. But just because you are satisfied with your comfort , doesnt mean feminism is no longer needed . (We’ll talk about feminism in depth some other time.)
More and more women today have access to information via the use of technology & social media. If one is unaware of the conditions for women elsewhere, that information is accessible. So what it means to be a woman in today’s age , is recognising that feminism is needed globally , now more than ever.

Womanhood is to realise that helping other women achieve their aspirations  is just as important as achieving your own. There is an african proverb which says “If you want to go fast , go alone. If you want to go far  , go together.” Making a conscious effort to lift other women up is a concsious part of being a woman.
Helping women receive education, irrespective of their age and protesting against issues like domestic violence and dowry demands is just the tip of the iceberg. More importantly caring for other women irrespective of other societal barriers is the essence of womanhood. 
So this International Girl Child’s day, lets give the little girls a lot of women to look upto and a better world to look forward to.

“You can bend but never break me
‘Cause it only serves to make me
More determined to achieve my final goal
And I’ll come back even stronger
Not a novice any longer
‘Cause you’ve deepened the conviction in my soul

I am woman, watch me grow
See me standing toe-to-toe
As I spread my loving arms across the land
But I’m still an embryo
With a long, long way to go
Until I make my brother understand

Whoa, yes, I am wise
But it’s wisdom born of pain
Yes, I’ve paid the price
But look how much I gained

If I have to I can do anything
I am strong 
I am invincible 
I am woman”

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Kurta – Hand Embroidered Chikankari Georgette Lucknowi Anarkali from  “Panache” by Sadaf Sami. (Ph- 9892399234)
Pants –  Cotton Village

Jewelry–  Perline Silvers
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All photos clicked by: Shailendra Pardesi 

You can follow him on Instagram and Facebook!

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Location Courtesy – Grillicious , Baner, Pune.

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